Shen Goes Gold

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L-R: Ron Agostinoni, Sarah Olsen, Kaitlyn Gilbert, Brittney Decker, Don Flynt, Amanda Hayes, Janine Cammarata

Today many at the Shenendehowa Central High School wore gold for September’s Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. Gold ribbons were handed to hundreds of students and Brittney Decker, president of Nick’s Round Table, spoke about the importance of raising awareness and the purpose of the garden.

Don Flynt, who was the principal at High School East for 20 years retired last year, and I had the pleasure to meet the new principal, Ron Agostinoni. The first thing Mr. A (as the students call him) mentioned to me is that he knew one of the kids whose picture surrounded the garden–Emily. He is good friends with her family and felt an instant connection to our cause.

He then said that he and Mr. Flynt met a couple times over the summer to help with the transition. He figured Mr. Flynt would start with all it took to run a school. However, one of the first topics mentioned was Nick’s Round Table, the importance of the Memorial Garden, and our mission to help kids fight cancer.

 

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Don Flynt honored because of his commitment to his students.

Today, in addition to raising awareness for kids battling cancer, we dedicated a stone labeled with the word ‘commitment’ to Don Flynt. He recognized that in the midst of tragedy, our young adults needed a way to take action. He provided the space, tools, and platform for them to be empowered to help others.

Don Flynt has always shown compassion and integrity, and I believe Mr. A has the same qualities. We look forward to working with him.

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For all of our children who are in the midst of their cancer battle, we are right beside you. For those who have beaten this disease, we are ecstatic for you. For our children who have gone before us, we will never forget you and keep fighting in your name.

September is Childhood Cancer awareness month, but every day our kids struggle with this disease. Make a difference today.

Creating a Ripple Effect

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Abby and Matt, celebrating life!

As we raise awareness this month about childhood cancer, we show the harsh side of it; the devastation, the heartache and pain that our children go through. The posts about childhood cancer facts are very much appreciated, because facts don’t lie. When we are faced with the truth, we can no longer sit back and be complacent.

There are many ways to create change and face a cancer diagnosis. Abby Sayles and her family have shown us a positive and powerful way to battle cancer that is not only effective (Abby is about a year cancer free), but also has caused a ripple effect across the cancer community.

I first met Abby and her family after she married her nurse, Matt Hickling, in a touching ceremony at The Melodies Center. Just this act alone started by the tremendous support Matt showed Abby, raised awareness around the world about what a child with cancer goes through.

Dance to be Healed began to celebrate that support and is now an annual event where children and their families get dressed up, dance, and take time off from their treatment and worries.

For a few years, Abby has walked in our July 4th parade and jumps right into the activity of handing out candy and bags. She truly teaches us that Nothing is Impossible. She is living proof of that.

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Abby always raises awareness in style.

If that wasn’t enough of a ripple effect, Abby and her family started a lemonade stand where she raises money for The Melodies Center and this year for Nick’s Fight to be Healed. Giving back builds community and provides strength to the families who open their hearts to the support.

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Abby, 100% healed and still giving back!

Community makes a huge difference in healing. I truly believe that Abby’s positive attitude helped her to heal. She learned this from her parents and the amazing staff at the clinic.

Now that Abby is done with treatment, she stays connected to her cancer family, because connection continues that ripple effect. The more people understand what a child goes through, the more they will help. When someone who never knew about childhood cancer sees what Abby and other kids have done, then they move forward to create change. Before we know it that ripple turns into a wave of action.

How will you create a ripple effect? What will you do today to help a child with cancer? Doesn’t have to be huge. One stone can cause a ripple.

Building a Compassionate Generation

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Brandon & Paige Farinaccio

Last night Luke and I attended the wedding of one of the young ladies who grew up with Nick and Stephen. Paige was a few years older, but her younger brother, Jason, went to preschool with Nick, and they all practiced karate together.

Paige is the first of our kids to get married. It’s weird seeing the young adults beginning their adult lives, and there were a few times last night when despite all the happiness, I thought of Nick and all he was missing.

Stephen couldn’t go, but at least it was because he was at school. He was doing something productive. I miss my boys in different ways.

Instead of giving favors, Paige and Brandon wanted to make a donation to Nick’s Fight to be Healed in memory of Nick. Leave it to this amazing couple to think of my boy. We were honored and touched.

It was extra special, since their gesture started on the first day of  September being Childhood Cancer Awareness month. As we remember our children who are no longer with us and continually fight alongside the braves ones battling, it’s important to acknowledge this generation of compassionate philanthropists, who take any opportunity to make a difference.

Paige and Brandon are just beginning their lives together. Yet they took the time to embrace what was a devastating part of all our lives, and they infused it with love and hope. They and all the young adults who celebrated with them are our future. They are the ones who will continue to give back. We set the example, but they took action.

Nick would have been dancing up a storm at the wedding last night with Stephen right there with him. Cancer took that away from us and that is why we all have to take action.

Paige and Brandon, we wish you love, happiness, and good health for you both and your children to come. May you continue to make the world a better place and thank you for thinking of others when it was your special night.

Why Give Back

When the news of cancer strikes a family, it’s hard to know how to support them. How much you get involved depends on how open the family is about the diagnosis.  Most people share their journey on a site like Caring Bridge, www.caringbridge.org which is a fantastic way to keep everyone updated and for encouraging messages to be sent to the family.  Those messages get a family through each day. Dropping off dinners, taking their dogs out for a walk, mowing the lawn or snowplowing.  A card, a hug, a text–all these acts of compassion make such a powerful impact that everyone should do it.

My favorite program that Nick’s Fight to be Healed Foundation provides is Nick’s Comfort Bags.  When Nick was in treatment, he received great gifts.  Toshiko, who was the Child Life Specialist at that time gave him a Giants baseball hat, because she saw he wore a Giants sweatshirt. She arranged to have Nick meet the players at their camp. He received a great backpack with school supplies, maybe not fun, but Nick appreciated it. One day in clinic Toshiko brought him a bag from The American Cancer Society.  It had fun activities, gum, pink socks and a pink journal.  Nick looked at me, laughed, and said, “I’ll still wear these.” The bag made Nick smile, which was always a precious treat.

When Nick passed I thought about this bag and how we could bring joy and activities to young adults. Emily Patchell came up with the questions that would be given to a young adult ages 10-25.  They included: What’s your favorite color, gender, clothing size, do you have an Ipod, any pets, favorite activities. Other teens from our teen advisory group called Nick’s Round Table shopped for the items and packed them into a drawstring bag for delivery to the clinic.  It has always been a huge success and seems to come at the perfect time.

The note above came from a young girl who really enjoyed the comfort bag and appreciated what people she didn’t know did for her.  Healing comes through giving back and showing compassion through a project like Nick’s Comfort Bags. When a child smiles and gets through another day, we know why we give back.

For more ways to give, go to www.fighttobehealed.org

Sample of Nick’s Comfort Bags

Teens Helping Teens Fight Cancer

Friday, June 8 was the Relay for Life at the Shenendehowa High School’s Track field.  Nick’s Round Table, a teen advisory group, was in charge of the Fight Back segment of the evening at 11:15pm.  25 teens were lined up the steps of the bleachers and one by one they held up a photo of a sibling, a friend, or a classmate who either lost their battle with cancer or was still fighting. The crowd was silent and attentive.

They spoke about what Nick’s Round Table does:
Awareness: Raises awareness about pediatric cancer.
Dignity: Members treat each other and kids with cancer with honor and respect.
Hope: They provide hope through comfort bags, birthday packs and cards to help kids feel special.
Healing: Promote healing by raising money to support families, update DVD’s and videogames to make their hospital stays more comfortable.

They explained what others can do to help someone with cancer:
Courage: Hold their hands, go to appointments with them, share your strength to help them get through each day.
Laughter: The best medicine. It’s a great distraction during treatment.
Respect: Treat kids with cancer like human beings.  Have patience when they are having a hard time.
Strong: Be encouraging, optimistic. Don’t lose it in front of them, but it’s OK to cry.
Friend: Be a friend. Keep in touch. Listen. Be in the present moment when you are with them. Text. Watch a movie. Play a game. Be supportive.

Members of Nick’s Round Table–The Fighting Dragons Team!

Teens ranging from 6th-12th grade came up with these ideas.  They empower other teens to fight against cancer, inspire adults to reach out and make a difference. They ease their own grief by giving to others. 

Teens Helping Teens Fight Cancer.  I am so proud of them and am confident that some day these teens will grow into compassionate adults who will conquer cancer once and for all.