The countdown for Nick’s Run is 7 days. It’s been a whirlwind of finalizing all the details and promoting the event to make it the biggest one yet. Part of the promoting is being on the radio and TV. I had the pleasure to talk with Marc Kaplan with Siena’s station 88.3.
One of Marc’s questions was what advice would I give to anyone whose child is battling cancer. What advice for the parents? My biggest advice, which is also the hardest to act on is self-care.
For the four months that Nick had cancer, we were in the hospital a lot, and I usually stayed with him. Stephen was only 10 and wanted his dad. I didn’t exercise, I barely left his room, and my diet was terrible. I remember wishing that someone would come and pluck my eyebrows. I was afraid that if I wasn’t there something would happen to Nick. A couple times Luke stayed, and it was wonderful to spend time with Stephen, but I often felt that my heart was split.
Imagine doing this for years. Any parent would do the same and eventually it takes a toll on our bodies, mind, and spirit. It also affects our ability to make decisions. I think I was on autopilot, and taking a break even to sit in silence or do the yoga practice that I do now would have benefitted all of us.
So during this month of Childhood Cancer awareness, we know that taking care of your sick child is the priority. But remember to take moments for yourself to read a book, write in a journal, take a walk, do yoga, exercise, and eat well. Do what nourishes you and gives you moments of peace. It will make a difference in the long run.
What are other suggestions for self-care?